Hello from this side of the world! Hope you’re doing well. It’s been ages that I haven’t talked to you. If you recall I wrote a blog piece in May this year that life was overwhelming, and I needed to restart. The gap in my blog post meant that I have to direct my focus to my wife, new work, new environment, a new country, travel parts of Europe, and starting a family.
A year ago, I travelled halfway across the world to follow Steph. The decision to follow wasn’t a big deal. I really wanted to be with her, to hold her and hug her. The long-distance relationship was quite tough but as I always say you can surpass it with both of you deciding for your future. As I stepped out the plane from Gatwick Airport which is just south of London, I was welcomed by the chilly breeze of the winter season. I was genuinely happy that I’m now together with Steph. Finally, LDR no-more. I was enthusiastic when I arrived. Just like a kid, I had tons of questions to Steph – the life in the United Kingdom, its people and culture, and as each day these questions were answered through immersing myself with the British people. They’re kind and lovely people – respectful ones I must say.
My new discoveries and adventures kept me busy but as days unfold I was hit by the big questions of how to start again. Honestly, life back in Cagayan de Oro was a thriving one. I had a small bespoke social media agency in CDO catering to relatively a couple of homegrown brands, I work independently and definitely, I own my time. I’m in the United Kindom – a new environment and the only way to move forward is to start all over again.
As I reflect the year it has been, I believe I can summarise it in three points.
It’s okay to feel uncertain.
We have to accept the fact that the only constant thing in this world is change. It’s inevitable and sometimes it’s not the way we expected it to be. You will initially repel it but I’d say go through it, feel it and you will learn from it. Your state of life will eventually tell you that there is hope. You just have to think deeply about going through it and carrying on with your life. I also find it helpful that I’ve
Decide to start all over again.
You may eventually feel down, depressed and sometimes you overthink but the only way to overcome it is to decide to start again. That decision should be firm or else you’d be stagnant on that feeling and situation. When you decide, remind yourself on that decision daily, pray for it and picture your desired outcome.
Take baby steps.
Don’t pressure yourself like putting an egg in a boiling water. I know. I literally used that an example but kidding aside – take baby steps. You are in a new environment and situation. Learn from it and accomplish your goal step by step.
As you take these steps slowly but surely you wouldn’t maybe realise that you have conquered that period in your life.
One thing is for sure, I’m glad to be where I am right now (with Steph and our upcoming baby boy)!
We all start somewhere. Life is meant to be enjoyed. I will leave you with two words today – adopt and adapt. Have a great start today.
P.S. Did you get to the point where you started all over again? How did you do that? Tell me. Feel free to drop your thoughts on the comments section. I will be delighted to read them.
Quick note: I will try to blog more often this time. Hopefully, I would be able to share our wedding planning adventures, our wedding day and our Euro trips.
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